Feeling horny in bed and want some sexy time? Here’s everything about pillow humping and the different techniques you can use to know how to hump a pillow!

Feeling bored with your usual masturbation repertoire? We’re looking at the art of pillow humping, why women do it and the masturbation techniques you can use to learn how to hump a pillow and moan your way to the best solo orgasms!

Pillow humping and how it all begins!

The thought of pillow humping might sound silly, and dare we say, embarrassing, but the fact is most of us have done it at one point or another.

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As a girl going through puberty, odds are, you had to find new and exciting ways to touch yourself without the convenience of running to the store and picking up a vibrator. Cue pillow humping.

You’re lying in bed, feeling tingly and horny, and you just don’t know how to find a release. Heck, you don’t even know what you’re feeling because it feels all weird… and really nice at the same time.

During one of these moments, you grab a pillow in between your legs and roll about, because somehow it seems like a good idea.

And at some point, you realize it feels good. Really good. You move the pillow around a bit more, and bam, it feels even better. And then before you know it, you’re grinding the pillow like a sex doll. And that, ladies, is usually your first introduction to learning how to pillow hump!

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What is pillow humping?

“Pillow humping” is a casual term for a common form of sexual self-exploration, involving, you guessed it, our trusty bedtime buddy – the pillow. Think of it as a solo dance with your pillow, where you are both the lead and the follower, exploring rhythm and touch for your own enjoyment.

It’s a safe and natural method of self-pleasure that involves grinding or rubbing against a pillow to stimulate areas of the body sensitive to sexual pleasure.

While the ‘pillow dance’ doesn’t discriminate and is practiced by all genders, it’s often the go-to move for many women and people with vulvas.

After all, pillows don’t come with a manual, and everyone’s steps are unique to their own rhythm and comfort. It’s the very freedom of this dance that has made it a chart-topper on the ‘solo love’ playlist for so many people.

But before we dive deeper into the art of pillow humping, let’s set the record straight: self-pleasure is a healthy, normal part of human sexuality. In fact, according to the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior, nearly 85% of women reported having masturbated at some point in their lives. And yes, that includes the shimmy with a pillow.

So, strap in, or should we say, fluff up, as we get ready to explore the ins and outs of pillow humping, one bounce at a time!

FYI, just in case you were wondering, men do it too! Men masturbate with pillows by folding the pillow in half and thrusting their penis inside the fold. Sounds hot, right? *note the sarcasm* Or by pressing a pillow hard against the bed and thrusting the penis between the pillow and mattress. Soft, squishy goodness!

[Read: How to dry hump a guy without penetration – The virgin’s guide to hot orgasms without having sex]

Why people hump inanimate objects

Strange as it sounds, humping inanimate things usually starts during childhood. Psychologists and parents agree that many children start displaying sexual behavior early.

This can manifest itself through simulated intercourse like dry humping/pillow humping, and basically dry humping or grinding against household objects because it is available. Definitely not a snapshot for the photo album!

This is common for children in the 9-12 age range. However, children’s ages vary for discovering their bodies. You’d be surprised to know how many people carry their pillow humping habits into adulthood.

The pull and desire to pillow hump

While pillow humping might sound like a phrase coined at a teenager’s sleepover party, it has got roots that delve deep into the labyrinth of human psychology. 

As beings blessed and cursed with an array of complex emotions, we often seek outlets for release—and yes, that extends beyond sobbing at a rom-com or laughing at internet memes. 

In fact, one such outlet can be found right under our sleeping heads. That’s right, your fluffy cloud of a pillow can moonlight as a secret stress-buster, doubling as an agent for sexual release and self-exploration.

To put it simply, humans are creatures of pleasure. And that’s an evolutionary fact! 

According to the Pleasure Principle, a term coined by Freud, individuals are driven to seek pleasure and avoid pain to ensure survival. So, when it comes to finding joy in our bodies, it’s all part of our genetic programming. [Read: 22 hot ways to make sex more fun and exciting when it gets lame and boring]

And pillow humping is just a creative improvisation on the grand stage of self-pleasure.

Plus, the pillow’s soft texture and firmness can stimulate pleasure points, leading to a sexual release that not only quenches a physical need but also acts as an emotional stress reliever. 

And if you’re thinking that sexual pleasure can contribute to better mental health, give yourself a pat on the back, because you’re absolutely right. A study from the University of Texas linked regular sexual activity, including masturbation, to improved stress response, lower blood pressure, and overall better well-being. Talk about a wholesome, feel-good activity!

Beyond the physical realm, there’s an equally important aspect of pillow humping *and any other form of self-pleasure* that often goes unnoticed – fantasy. 

According to another published study, fantasy plays a crucial role in sexual satisfaction. It not only provides the mental arousal that often accompanies and enhances physical pleasure but also allows us to explore our desires and expectations about sex in a safe, no-strings-attached way. [Read: Mutual fantasy – How to fantasize and talk about someone else while having sex]

So, the next time you see your pillow, remember it’s not just a soft landing for your weary head—it could also be your passport to a journey of self-discovery and pleasure, one dreamy grind at a time!

How to pillow hump – The step-by-step guide to try it for the first time

The road to self-pleasure is much like assembling an IKEA bookshelf. It’s personal, it requires a bit of creativity, and the instructions aren’t always clear *but they’re definitely more fun*. Give these steps a try, and you’ll be a pro humper in no time!

1. Choose the right pillow

Just like in the game of love, the choice of a partner can make or break your dance. For pillow humping, consider long and firm pillows that can provide the right balance of comfort and pressure.

And hey, no one said you can’t have more than one pillow, right? Go ahead, create your own pillow harem!

2. Find your sweet spot

Positioning is key in the dance of pleasure. You could lie face down and place the pillow beneath you, or you could stand and use the corner of the bed for support.

Experiment with different positions *we’ve shared a few of the best positions below!* to find what feels best for you. Remember, this isn’t the Olympic gymnastics floor, so no pressure to nail a perfect landing!

3. Set the mood

Our brains are excellent DJs, and they can spin a soundtrack that best suits our mood and enhances our experience. So, let your imagination roam free.

Create a fantasy that excites you, whether it’s a steamy scenario or simply focusing on the sensations you’re experiencing. [Read: The best female fantasies – 17 arousing thoughts that’ll turn you on in no time]

4. Move to the rhythm

When it comes to movements, your rhythm is your rule. Some might find a back-and-forth motion to be just the ticket, while others may prefer circular movements.

The ‘right’ way is subjective and tied to your personal comfort. It’s like doing the Cha-Cha slide—everyone has their own flair!

5. Listen to your body

This one is crucial. Pleasure should never be synonymous with discomfort or pain. If at any point something doesn’t feel right, don’t hesitate to stop or adjust your approach. Your body is your best guide on this intimate journey.

Remember, your experience with pillow humping is unique to you. So, don’t fret if your journey doesn’t mirror what you’ve seen or read elsewhere.

After all, there’s no precise science to pleasure. It’s more of an art, really, an abstract one at that! As long as you’re comfortable, respectful towards your body, and having fun, you’re doing it absolutely right!

The different ways and methods of pillow humping for girls

No sex toys necessary. If you’re still living under your parent’s roof, or are just too shy to head to a sex shop and buy a sex toy, pillows are a pretty available alternative.

Curious to know how to hump your pillows to orgasm? We’re always here to help. [Read: 48 tips, types and positions to finger yourself and cum on your very first try!]

Let’s dive into the plush, inviting world of pillows and explore the best positions for pillow humping. And remember, the right way to pillow hump is really any way that feels good for you. It’s about the journey, not the destination *although reaching the destination can be pretty fantastic, too!*.

1. The Classic Position

This is the go-to position for many pillow-humpers. Lie down on your stomach with a pillow positioned between your legs.

You can grind, thrust, or wiggle against the pillow to discover what feels best for you. [Read: How to masturbate – 30 solo orgasm tips and masturbation secrets for women]

2. Back to Basics

For this position, you’re on your back with a pillow tucked under your hips, elevating them to help hit the right spots. It’s a fantastic position for those who enjoy stimulating their front-facing erogenous zones.

3. The Straddle

Stand up and place the pillow on the edge of your bed or a sturdy table. Straddle the pillow and grind against it. This allows for a more active approach and can offer a different kind of pleasure.

4. Double Stacked

Sometimes, one pillow just doesn’t cut it. You can stack one more pillow under the first to increase the pressure. This position is great for those who need more stimulation to reach orgasm.

5. The Side Ride

For this one, instead of mounting the pillow in the usual way, try lying on your side and placing the pillow between your thighs. Grind your thighs together for a unique take on the usual method.

6. Vibrations Galore

If you’re feeling adventurous, you could add a small handheld massager or a vibrating phone in a waterproof case *safety first!* between your pillow and yourself for an added layer of stimulation.

7. The Pretzel

This is for the flexible folks out there. Lie down on your side and place a pillow between your legs, raising one leg higher than the other. The twisted angle can provide a different kind of pleasure and stimulate other areas of your body.

8. The Triple Stack

This pillow humping method involves stacking three pillows one on top of another instead of one or two, and mounting them. Using a rocking motion, grind back and forth until you find a rhythm that gets your motor running.

You may feel a bit out of balance at first, but you will feel like you’re lying on top of someone, which is pretty close to the idea of dry humping.

9. The Stuffed Animal

Sorry, Tigger. Ever wonder why many girls keep stuffed animals on their bed well into their 20’s? We have a disturbing answer: They might be humping the stuffed toys.

Stuffed animals, body pillows, or oversized stuffed animals are great for humping because they have different shapes and other features that can spice up a pillow session.

For example, their button nose can be the perfect button for clitoral stimulation. It’s so wrong but so right.

And the best part is, you can literally buy any stuffed toy keeping the specific shape in mind. And no one but you would have a clue what your real intentions are! [Read: Female masturbation and 17 facts about the naughty secret]

10. The Corner of the Bed

Some girls like taking a pillow and placing it on the corner of their mattress while pillow humping.

This way, they can grind against it while standing/crouching and get more friction from the mattress edge than they would if the pillow were just lying flat.

11. Fluff Fold

Another popular method of pillow grinding is to fold the pillow in half before mounting. This will make your pillow firmer and easier to get friction from.

12. Ride the Pillow

Fold the pillow in half to make it firm. Now squat on it like you’re riding the pillow, and grind against the folded pillow.

If you need to visualize it, just imagine being on top while having sex, but with a pillow instead.

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In each of these positions, feel free to explore different movements and pressures, remembering to prioritize your comfort and pleasure. And never forget the golden rule of self-pleasure—always listen to your body.

If something doesn’t feel right, it’s time to try something new. After all, pleasure should be an all-expenses-paid trip to Happyville, not a detour through Ouchtown!

Keep in mind though, each person’s experience is different and what works for one person may not work for another. Different strokes for different folks! [Read: How to use a dildo and give yourself an explosive happy ending]

The secret hip movements and thrusts to make pillow humping feel really good!

Let’s dive into the world of hip movement. Like a seasoned salsa dancer, understanding how to move your hips can take your pillow humping experience from pleasant to fireworks-inducing.

Here are a few moves and positions to make pillow humping feel like the best thing ever!

1. The Basic Grind

The most common hip motion used in pillow humping is a basic forward-and-backward grind. Imagine you’re listening to your favorite groovy tune, and your hips are just swaying to the rhythm.

2. The Circular Motion

This move adds a touch of variety. Imagine you’re hula hooping, move your hips in a circular motion as you grind against the pillow. This can stimulate different areas, intensifying the pleasure.

3. The Hip Twist

This is a side-to-side motion, like you’re doing the twist dance but in a horizontal position. This movement can offer different sensations compared to the forward-and-backward motion.

4. The Figure Eight

This is a more advanced move. Picture drawing an “8” with your hips. It’s a mix of the circular motion and the hip twist, providing a variety of sensations.

It may take some practice, but as they say, practice makes perfect *or in this case, practice makes pleasure!*.

5. Pulsing

This involves small, rhythmic thrusts against the pillow, kind of like you’re dancing to some fast, high-energy music. This can be especially pleasurable when you’re close to climax.

All said and done, the goal of these movements isn’t to become a contortionist. Instead, it’s to explore different sensations and discover what feels best for you. Listen to your bodies, and most importantly, have fun with it!

Also, never forget that all bodies are different. What works for one hip may not work for another. But that’s the beauty of self-exploration. It’s a personal journey that can lead to wonderful discoveries.

The best clothing choices and other tips to make humping a pillow way more pleasurable

Even though pillow humping can be a pretty straightforward endeavor, there are definitely a few clothing and additional suggestions that could potentially spice up the experience.

After all, we humans are complex creatures, and sometimes it’s the small details that make a world of difference.

1. Fabric choices

Different fabrics can produce different sensations. Satin or silk might offer a smoother, more sensual experience, while something with more texture like corduroy might provide more friction. You could experiment with various materials or even place different fabrics on the pillow to find what feels best.

Here’s a tip – When you’re completely aroused, grinding can feel amazing with no clothes on. But, until you hit that point, it may be too much pressure and might bruise your clit.

Instead, try grinding with silky panties on. This allows you to slide against the pillow with ease and will be gentler on your sensitive areas.

2. Wearing clothes

It’s a common misconception that all sexual activity must occur sans clothing. However, wearing certain types of clothing during pillow humping can enhance the experience.

Tight clothing, like leggings or underwear, can provide some extra pressure that feels great.

3. Positioning undergarments

If you’re a person with a vulva, positioning your underwear to be a bit tighter against your clitoris can add an extra layer of stimulation.

4. The right pillow

The size and firmness of the pillow can make a huge difference. Some people might prefer a larger, fluffier pillow for a softer experience, while others might enjoy a smaller, firmer pillow for more intense pressure.

5. Add another element

Stack your pillow under your hips, or wherever is most comfortable. Then, try adding a new element to the mix such as a vibrator or empty shampoo bottle. Place the phallic object underneath the pillow.

Placing it underneath will create an arch for you to grind against and more closely resemble grinding against a penis. You know, except for the whole vibrating thing. [Read: Homemade dildos for when the moment strikes unexpectedly]

6. Adding vibrations

We mentioned this in the how-to steps above, but it’s worth repeating. Placing a small handheld massager or a vibrating phone *safety first – use a waterproof case!* inside the pillowcase can add an extra oomph to the pillow humping session.

7. Fresh out the dryer

This is a lesser-known tip. A warm pillow *not hot* can heighten the sensations and make the experience more pleasurable.

Just toss your pillow in the dryer for a few minutes *if it’s safe to do so*, and voila – you have a warm, welcoming companion!

8. Be noisy

On average, women are noisier in bed than men. That doesn’t mean being loud is only for the benefit of a partner’s ears! People make noise during sex because it feels good, not because it sounds good. Unless they’re faking it, which is a whole other story!

Regardless, don’t be afraid to get a little loud during your pillow romping. We promise, it’ll feel that much hotter, and you’ll feel so much hornier too.

PS: Don’t do this if there are other people in the house! [Read: How to moan and look and sound sexy AF while making out]

9. Shape your pillow like a body

This sounds super creepy, but it really does make all the difference. While pillows are great *not to mention quiet* sex alternatives, they don’t give you that body-on-body connection you get from a partner.

Remedy this by setting up your pillows until they resemble a body shape on your mattress. This allows you to cuddle up against the mound while you grind away and give you a fabulous up close and personal feel like you’re actually having sex with someone under you.

10. Take it off

Even if you keep your underwear on, try removing your shirt and bra. Lean forward and grind against your pillow and feel the fabulousness of your breasts bounding against the pillowcase as you move.

11. Spread your labia

If you’re grinding with panties on, try spreading your labia and setting your vagina against the pillow with it spread. This allows more direct stimulation for the clitoris.

[Read: First orgasm confessions – Many people talk about their first time experience with orgasms]

Remember, all of these tips and tricks are meant to enhance the pillow humping experience, but they’re not necessary. Pillow humping should be about personal comfort and exploration, and it’s totally fine if you prefer the classic, no-frills approach.

The must-know psychological tips and tricks to enjoy humping a pillow

Let’s take a peek behind the velvety curtain and learn a few secrets to enhance your solo experience.

1. Mental stimulation is key

The mind is a powerful sexual organ, and fantasies play a significant role in arousal. So, when you’re in the act, let your mind wander to your most tantalizing scenarios. It’s literally the best way to enjoy pillow humping! [Read: 26 sexy secrets to turn yourself on and get aroused ASAP]

2. Your mood matters

The ambiance can make a difference in your sexual experience. Lighting, music, or even certain scents can trigger your senses and set the mood. Don’t underestimate the power of a good playlist or a scented candle! [Read: 24 sexy bedroom ideas to make room look sexy and inviting]

3. Know thyself

Spend time exploring and understanding your body in non-sexual contexts as well. This can help you understand what makes you feel good during sexual activity and enhance your overall experience.

4. The power of anticipation

Rather than jumping right into it, build up some anticipation.

Foreplay isn’t just for couples – you can flirt with the idea of pleasure, read erotica, or just lie down and fantasize about something naughty, slowly increasing your arousal over time, leading to potentially more intense orgasms.

5. Keep the mystery alive

Even if you’ve found a technique that works, don’t be afraid to switch things up. Introducing novelty can rekindle arousal, as it taps into our innate curiosity and keeps our brains engaged, according to research in the Archives of Sexual Behavior.

6. Relaxation is crucial

It’s harder to achieve orgasm if you’re tense or anxious. Try deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, or even a quick yoga session beforehand to ensure you’re fully relaxed. [Read: 18 secrets to relax your mind during sex and enjoy blissful orgasms]

7. Positive sexual affirmations

Keep a positive attitude towards the act. If you’re feeling any shame or guilt, remind yourself that self-pleasure is natural and healthy.

Positive sexual affirmations can help you maintain a good relationship with your sexuality.

8. Practice mindfulness

Stay in the moment. As per a study in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, practicing mindfulness during sex can lead to increased sexual satisfaction. Pay attention to the sensations, the rhythm, and the movements.

9. No pressure

Every sexual experience doesn’t need to end in an orgasm. Sometimes, the pressure to reach the finish line can make it harder to get there. Enjoy the journey, and if an orgasm happens, consider it a pleasant bonus!

The final words to remember before you get too carried away!

As fun as pillow humping may be, there are a few things you need to keep in mind – especially if you just realized you’ve been canceling all your weekend plans just to lie in bed with your pillow!

1. Moderation is key

You know the old saying, “too much of a good thing…”? Well, it applies here too. Yes, pillow humping can be a fun and pleasurable activity, but it should be enjoyed in moderation.

Always remember that pillow humping is just one of many ways to explore and express your sexuality, and it’s healthy to have a diverse repertoire of self-pleasuring techniques. [Read: How to prepare for sex – 20 things you MUST do to enjoy it a lot more]

2. Don’t get too attached

While pillow humping can be a great stress reliever and a safe way to explore one’s sexuality, it’s possible to become overly reliant on it for sexual satisfaction.

The brain is an incredible thing, and it can form strong associations between certain actions *like pillow humping* and sexual pleasure.

This could potentially make it difficult to achieve sexual satisfaction in other ways. So, remember to mix it up and keep your sexual routine varied.

3. Listen to your body

Pleasure should never come at the cost of discomfort or harm. If at any point, pillow humping causes discomfort or pain, it’s essential to stop and reassess. If it hurts, don’t do it!

4. Every body is different

Just as we all have our own favorite ice cream flavors, we all have our own unique ways of experiencing pleasure. What works wonderfully for one person might not work for another. And that’s totally okay!

Try to discover what feels best for you and to not feel pressured to enjoy something simply because others are doing it.

5. Safe sex is still important

This might seem irrelevant in a conversation about pillow humping, but it’s always worth remembering that engaging in safe sex practices is essential when you’re with a partner, even if it’s just pillow humping or grinding together. [Read: Just the tip sex – Why guys use this excuse and why girls always fall for it]

While pillow humping is a relatively safe practice, it’s always a good idea to keep your safety in mind. This means taking it slow if you’re new to this, and keeping everything clean before and after the act.

Remember, you wouldn’t go skydiving without a parachute, so don’t dive into your sexual explorations without thinking about safety!

4. Stay informed

Knowledge is power, and the more you know about your body and your sexual desires, the better your experience will be.

Keep learning, stay curious, and never hesitate to ask questions. You’re not in a cheesy high school movie – there’s no such thing as a stupid question when it comes to your sexual health.

5. Keep on exploring

Now that you know all about pillow humping, don’t stop here. Continue exploring your sexuality in a safe and healthy manner.

Discover new ways to experience pleasure and keep an open mind. Remember, the only constant thing in life is change, and your sexual preferences might change over time too. And that’s perfectly okay!

6. The journey is yours

Exploring your sexuality is a personal journey. Just like you wouldn’t want someone else hogging the aux cord on your road trip, you don’t want someone else dictating how you explore your sexuality.

There’s no GPS for this adventure, and no “right” or “wrong” way to go about it. So, don’t be afraid to carve your own path and take the scenic route if it feels right to you.

All said and done, whether you’re a pillow humping pro or a curious newbie, remember that it’s all about having a fun, safe, and enjoyable experience.

[Read: 35 must-know truths to become sexually active in a safe and fun way]

Pillow humping may sound weird at first, but hey, it works. Now that you know everything there is about how to pillow hump, remember these tips, fluff up that pillow and embark on your journey of self-exploration. Keep it fun, keep it safe, and keep it real!

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