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Trust isn’t a gift you hand out just because you’ve got a crush—or even because you’re officially a couple. So, is he trustworthy? Let’s break down how you can really tell.

You probably know that trust can make or break any relationship. Without it, even the strongest sparks will fizzle. And without love… well, everything else quickly goes downhill.

Still, trusting someone isn’t easy—especially if you’ve been burned before or you’re not sure he’s at that mature “keeper” stage yet. Some guys get there sooner, others… need a little more time (or a wakeup call). [Read: Nice guy syndrome—42 “fake” behaviors & how to spot them]

Why Trust Matters So Much in a Relationship

Think of trust as the glue that holds all the sweet, messy, real-life parts of a relationship together. It means:

• Knowing your partner will have your back.

• Feeling safe sharing your dreams and your drama.

• Counting on him when life throws you a curveball.

Trust isn’t just about “Will he remember our anniversary?” It’s about believing he truly cares for you—and he won’t break your heart for fun.

But when trust cracks appear, it’s like a tiny chip in your phone’s screen: leave it alone and it can spiderweb until the whole thing shatters. Trust issues—whether from the past or your gut—breed doubt, anxiety, and insecurity.

So… Can You Trust the Guy You’re Dating?

Before you hand over your heart, check for signs that he’s actually earned it. Here’s how to know if he’s worthy of your trust.

1. He’s Always Willing to Communicate

Trustworthy men don’t dodge your questions—they’re cool with honest chats because they have nothing to hide.

2. He Looks You in the Eye

Eye contact says a lot. If he holds your gaze easily, odds are he’s not sneaking around or gaming you. [Read: Master the art of eye contact flirting]

3. He Lets His Guard Down With You

When he’s open and vulnerable, it shows he trusts you—and wants you to trust him back.

4. He Isn’t Always Flirting With Other Women

If he only has eyes for you, that’s a good sign he’s ready for a real-deal relationship.

5. He’s Genuinely Interested in Your Life

A guy who wants all the details—your work, dreams, what made you laugh today—cares on a deeper level.

6. He’s Comfortable With Your Family & Friends

If he’s happy meeting your tribe (or bringing you into his), he’s got nothing shady going on. [Read: When your friends aren’t fans of your boyfriend…]

7. He Doesn’t Guard His Phone Like a Secret Agent

He’s not squirmy if you pick up his phone—no hidden messages means nothing to hide.

8. He’s Calm, Not Cagey

Trustworthy guys are relaxed and confident, not jumpy or looking over their shoulder.

9. You’re Getting More Comfortable Around Him over Time

Your intuition doesn’t lie. The more comfortable you feel, the more trust naturally grows.

10. Your Friends Approve

If your close friends like him, they’ve probably noticed he’s good for you (and not on their “suspicious boyfriend” radar either).

Trustworthiness Checklist: 15 More Things to Ask Yourself

Use these questions to really drill down—does he act like a trustworthy boyfriend, or are there red flags?

1. Does he keep secrets or hide things?
   If he’s regularly secretive, it’s a problem.

2. Have you caught him lying before?
   A one-time fib can happen. But repeated lying? Major trust issue.

3. Has his behavior changed suddenly?
   Big or unexplained changes could mean something’s up.

4. Did he cheat on previous partners?
   If he’s cheated before, be on alert—it could happen again. [Read: 20 sneaky signs he might be cheating now]

5. Are you projecting due to past hurt?
   Past betrayals can color your view—don’t let old wounds create new drama.

6. Have you ever cheated?
   Sometimes feeling guilty about your own past can make you distrustful—even when he’s innocent.

7. What kind of person do you believe he is, truly?
   Trust is a gut feeling—pay attention to what your instincts say.

8. Does he make you feel secure and valued?
   If he boosts your confidence, not your doubts, it’s a good thing.

9. Does he have a wandering eye?
   If he’s ogling every other girl, you’re right to question his loyalty.

10. Who are his friends?
    If his crew is a bunch of players, keep an eye out.

11. Does he keep you separated from areas of his life?
    If he’s weird about his friends, family, or routines—ask yourself why.

12. Are you included in his big decisions?
    A guy who values you asks your opinion and factors you into plans.

13. Is he there when it gets tough?
    A truly trustworthy partner doesn’t bail when things get hard.

14. Does he support your independence?
    If he wants you to grow and encourages you, that’s a long-term green light.

15. How does he handle conflict?
    Open, honest talking beats silent treatment or manipulation every time.

So, Is He Really Trustworthy?

Giving someone your trust isn’t easy—it takes experience, observation, and some “reading between the lines.” But with this checklist, you’ll sharpen your radar for real trust (and dodge the heartbreakers).

Remember, trust isn’t just a yes/no—it’s a vibe, a feeling, and a process that grows with honesty, action, and consistency.